So, when I start to ask that question, ‘why me?’ I remind myself that there is a valuable lesson in all of this

A dear friend of mine suffered an unimaginable loss recently. As we were eating dinner together and catching up on each other’s lives, her eyes filled with tears and suddenly she was overcome with sadness.

She expressed that she felt as though she hasn’t had time to grieve properly and she just couldn’t understand why something so awful had to happen to her.

She is traumatized. It was one of those moments when I felt as though no matter what I said to her, it just wouldn’t be right. I couldn’t find the words to comfort her.

Both of us are spiritual so we switched the conversation to God, and how prayer has helped her.

Our mutual friend had just received news that her chemotherapy had been successful. We were happy for her and praised God. It was clear that we were both asking the same question, even though we didn’t say it.

Miracles happen every day. There are so many reasons for celebration. Yet, here she is, my dear friend. Unable to contain her sorrow and pain. It’s something we all wonder from time to time. Why did this happen to me?

I didn’t have the answers for her and I don’t understand her loss. I still don’t understand the parts of my life that have left me so broken. We suffer, we’re hurt, and heartbroken, often left with scars that will never fully heal.

I don’t know why these things happen. There are so many questions. I decided to share my knowledge with her, rather than pretending to know what she was feeling or stumbling upon my words.

I know that the pain will diminish slowly. I know she will never be the exact same person again, but there is something in her new persona. She may never fully recover, but she has a new strength.

It is possible that she may not be ready to discuss it now. That is okay. One day she might be able to share her story with other people who have gone through similar situations.

I believe there is always light even in darkness. Sometimes, that light is just knowing that someone can relate.

Someone else can listen and learn from your story. They can also help you to feel a little safer. Sharing your pain is so difficult and maybe it’s not for everyone.

For me, speaking my truth has been liberating. Everyone has a story to share and someone will always need to hear it.

Your story could be the beginning of someone else’s healing journey. Your words and experiences can make a difference in someone’s life.

We may never fully understand the reasons for our suffering. But by sharing our stories, we can take that pain and turn it into someone else’s inspiration. We have the power to turn our bruises into someone’s courage.

Your story is powerful. It may be scary and painful, however, it can also be empowering. It might be just what someone needs to hear in order to start the healing process. You will also experience healing.

My life has changed since I have shared my most life-altering experiences and traumas. It has given me purpose and given my pain meaning. It is a beautiful thing to receive an email telling me that someone has found what I wrote just right for them. It’s togetherness that makes it all worth it.

So, when I start to ask that question, “why me?” I remind myself that there is a valuable lesson in all of this. Someone might be interested in what I have to share. My story is mine, but sharing it has brought me true healing.

About the author
Laura Scott is the person behind Looping LauraA writer who strives to bring light to dark times. She is currently on a journey of self-discovery, and is passionate about love and laughter. She has made some of her writings publicly over the past year in hopes of encouraging others to share and find peace. You can also follow her on Twitter and Facebook.


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