Why women entering the menopause should embrace their inner crone

Why are there so few enviable photographs of feminine elderhood in our tradition? Dr Sharon Blackie, the neuroscientist turned ecofeminist writer, is urging ladies getting into the second half of life to welcome their internal transformative energy

Sometimes a e-book comes alongside which associates share passionately amongst themselves, sending highlighted excerpts or pages photographed, battered copies handed from one hand to the subsequent. If Women Rose Rooted, Sharon Blackie’s 2017 cry for residing an genuine, complete, enchanted life, is one in every of these. The mixture of memoir, Celtic delusion and land lore grew to become a cult hit and bestseller. Her latest e-book, Hagitude, is, in some ways, a follow-up.

Hagitude sees Blackie getting into the second half of her life, celebrating 60 years on this “lovely, troubled planet”. Her life thus far has been remarkably various. Born into an impoverished working-class household within the north-east of England, she has lived in a number of the most elemental components of Scotland, Eire and now Wales, and labored as a neuroscientist, psychologist, company businesswoman, writer, and now author and trainer centered on the mythic creativeness. She reached menopause a couple of years again, and it was a revelation.

Blackie is chatting with me from her small farm in mid-Wales. Behind her are the Cambrian mountains, and their highest peak, Plynlimon. She lives close to forests, the supply of the River Severn and historic yew timber with uncommon breed sheep, hens, her husband, David, and her canine, Nell, who wanders in to say hiya whereas we speak.

Her writing and educating have made her a beloved and extremely revered thinker and a legend within the ecofeminist and nature writing world. I, like many others, discovered If Girls Rose Rooted empowering, a e-book that provides a quenching counter-narrative to patriarchal tales that restrict or erase ladies, and presents new methods of belonging to the world. Hagitude takes menopause and the second half of life as its terrain – and their transformative energy.

The challenges of menopause can in fact be disruptive. The typical age for menopause is 52 however it will possibly occur a lot earlier (for one in 100 ladies, earlier than 40). 4 years is the everyday period, however it may be for much longer (as much as 12 years). Many ladies undergo important troublesome impacts corresponding to despair, anxiousness, insomnia, scorching flushes and night time sweats; 1 / 4 of girls describe them as extreme. Till studying Hagitude, I had all the time dreaded it.


The title for Blackie’s e-book got here to her in the course of the night time. Picture: Mark Griffiths

However Blackie tells us that this isn’t all it’s. Her argument is that we’ve forgotten that menopause will also be a fertile, transformative time. Carl Jung, who Blackie is deeply infuenced by, believed that the second half of life was the time to develop into the individual you had been all the time meant to be. By seeing or portraying menopause as a incapacity or dysfunction, we’re lacking out on its optimistic and empowering potentialities, she argues.

Hagitude additionally blows aside cultural concepts about menopausal and post-menopausal ladies. It illuminates the failings in our societal pondering which relegate ageing ladies to the shadows, invisible and devalued. The title for the e-book got here to Blackie in the course of the night time. She spoke it aloud and knew it could be her subsequent e-book. Hags with perspective.

Whereas serious about what it means to be an elder, she discovered “no clear picture of enviable feminine elderhood within the up to date cultural mythology of the West” however, in digging deeper, she discovered that delusion and folklore instructed a much more attention-grabbing story. In our distant previous, older ladies had been revered and had significant roles to play. Blackie presents a various array of potential function fashions: the Furies, Baba Yaga, the Henwife, the smart outdated lady within the woods, to real-life ladies of their older years with exceptional artistic energies corresponding to artists Judy Chicago, Paula Rego and the eleventh century polymath Hildegard of Bingen.

The menopause is the time to stay “extra aligned with our passions, our longings”, says Blackie. Picture: Mark Griffiths

The psychological influence of menopause was unexpectedly optimistic for Blackie. Firstly, it was clarifying. “The main focus lets you see what must be performed,” she says, utilizing the analogy of alchemy. “It’s as for those who’re put in a crucible, and all the pieces, besides the essence of you, is burned away.”

Menopause, at its finest, is usually a “sacred pause within the hurtling trajectory of life”. It’s a time when all of the “dross” will be shed, all these years of compromising, adapting, pretending to be one thing we’re not, all of the veils and masks we put on, as she writes in Hagitude. As a substitute we will stay in a way “extra aligned with our passions and our longings”.

It has particular person benefts, and likewise benefts for wider society, too. Whereas studying Hagitude I used to be transfixed by the tales she instructed of studying to specific anger, after years of suppressing it, as many ladies do. Menopause is usually seen as a time of rage – a scorching time, actually, for the physique – and Blackie revisions this anger as a helpful and sincere drive: a “righteous wrath” that may be directed at what is basically going unsuitable in society. In classical mythology this wrath was linked with older ladies, most notably the Furies.

Blackie is cherished for providing individuals surprise and enchantment – components of the residing world I, and so many people, crave extra of – and it’s inspiring to listen to in regards to the new porousness she is experiencing within the second half of life. For the frst time, I really feel intrigued, somewhat than merely apprehensive and fearful, about ageing. I ask her the place she finds surprise in the meanwhile.

In menopause the barrier we think about between us and the pure world simply dissolves

“I discover surprise and enchantment all over the place,” she says. “In menopause the barrier we think about between us and the pure world simply dissolves fairly spontaneously and in unusual and surprising methods. It’s a really lovely sense that hastily the clouded water has grow to be crystal clear and you may see all of the organisms in it.”

How can we get to this place of empowerment and seeing older age otherwise? For Blackie, tales are the important magic for capturing imaginations and creating “real and lasting transformation”.

“Tales actually do change the world,” she says. “They present you a special set of outcomes and allow you to think about your self in numerous conditions and picture doing issues otherwise.”

If ladies are instructed there’s nothing on the finish of menopause, then they’re not going to deal with it properly. “However for those who can go into that with a narrative that claims: all of this discomfort is for one thing, it’s purported to occur, so that you just successfully start a brand new story, you grow to be the essence of who you are supposed to be, then you definately see that type of struggling as worthwhile and you may maintain on extra simply to it.”


Blackie lives close to the forest with uncommon breed sheep, hens, her husband, David, and her canine. Picture: Mark Griffiths

Definitely, conversations in regards to the menopause are growing. The Home of Commons not too long ago declared itself menopause-friendly. October is now the WHO’s World Menopause Month. However Blackie worries that this newfound curiosity would possibly lure ladies right into a false narrative, the concept which you could keep it up perpetually as you had been. “It’s so lacking the purpose,” she says, speaking about current information studies about preserving ladies in company jobs for longer, or the obsession with staying younger and delightful. For these on the lookout for assist with a extra transformative expertise, Blackie presents a year-long programme for the Hagitude neighborhood.

The elder age Blackie paints is about which means, items, play, knowledge and disruption, somewhat than stagnation or denial. It’s a dynamite imaginative and prescient. I, for one, am excited to embrace hag energy or crone energy when my time comes. Which was her intention. “I would really like it to make ladies excited in regards to the second half of their lives, to see what occurs as a possibility, as a brand new story and a means of changing into extra linked to the world exterior us and giving one thing very profound to it.” Hags with perspective? Carry it on.

Hagitude: Reimagining the Second Half of Life by Sharon Blackie is out now, printed by September Publishing

Important picture: Mark Griffiths