Dr. Darcy SterlingRecap of the Monday, August 22 episode ofThe BacheloretteWith Us Weekly?, suggesting Gabby WindeyYou may be heading for heartbreak Johnny DePhillipoHinting Rachel RecchiaCould have more bumps Tino Franco’s parents if something doesn’t change.
“I feel like [Johnny] was trying to bait his dad into telling him that it’s not a good idea. And [his] dad was, like, all in and then it made Johnny have to take responsibility for being on the fence,” the relationship therapist said on the Tuesday, August 23, episode of Use’ “Here for the Right Reasons” podcast. “He said to both his mom and his dad, ‘I don’t know if I’m ready for that, meaning to get engaged. I’m not fully there yet.’ He absolutely does not seem like he’s there. [And] he later said, ‘It’s tough for me to imagine getting on a knee with where I am in my life right now.’ So he is the typical guy who does that. So it’s so seductive, that unavailable dance — [he’s] partly there, but he’s not totally there. And so you want to work harder to get them all in.”
Gabby was asked by Dr. Darcy about her finalists. Erich SchwerAnd Jason AlabasterWhether they were ready to make a long-term commitment.
“[It]This makes me believe that this is one of her wounds. This is one of her top lines. She doesn’t want to fall for someone who isn’t quite ready. And this guy is screaming it from the rooftop,” she told Use.
The relationship expert also connected Gabby’s behavior to her previous comments about her estranged relationship with her mother.
“I do think that what we learned from our parents — parents or caregivers, or primary caregivers — growing up [from age] 0 to 5, they teach us how to love,” Dr. Darcy continued. “And so whatever attributes — negative and positive — that our parents have are those that we link up for life with love, and what we seek out and partners unconsciously or consciously. So if she had to work to earn her mom’s love then what she will unconsciously have linked up — even though consciously she knows she wants love, she knows that she deserves love, that’s why she’s asking people, ‘Is he ready for a long-term commitment,’ unconsciously having to work for it feels a lot more natural to her.”
Dr. Darcy would prefer Gabby to choose Erich, but she thinks that the ICU nurse might pick Johnny. “I suspect she’s going to pick Johnny. … She should pick Erich,” she said. “Erich’s the right choice.”
Tino has been dubbed the front-runner in Rachel’s race by Bachelor Nation. His parents, however, didn’t take the Bachelorette’s relationship with their son seriously during his hometown date.
“It almost felt like they were sabotaging it,” Dr. Darcy said. “It almost felt like they were trying to make it — whether consciously or otherwise — that they really didn’t want this to work out. There’s a difference between wanting to make sure your kids’ eyes are open — as open as can be under these circumstances — and creating a hostile environment where a person doesn’t feel welcome. At the end when she was like, ‘Thank you for welcoming me.’ I was like, ‘That was so generous and undeserved.’ I almost wondered if it was a little passive aggressive to underscore just how unwelcoming they were — they were so unwelcoming that [it] felt so hostile. I wanted to hug her.”
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