A large part of Gabby Windey’s Bachelorette journey has been opening up about her estranged relationship with her mother — but has the lead heard from Rosemary HewittSince the show’s debut?
“I really haven’t,” the 31-year-old reality star exclusively told Us WeeklyTuesday, August 2. “But that’s OK.”
Gabby further explained why she’s been so candid with her suitors about her lack of relationship with her mother.
Gabby Windey ABC/Craig Sjodin
“You get a limited amount of time with these guys. So on our one-on-ones is where you really have to get down to the nitty gritty so they can understand who you are, how you’re gonna be in a relationship,” the ICU nurse explained. “And, of course, our parents really influence who we are as adults and how we act in relationships and our attachment styles and things like that.”
Gabby adds that she wants to be “transparent” with her suitors.
“I have done a lot of work around my childhood, and sometimes it’s hard feeling the feeling of being loved because it applies to a romantic relationship, you know? It’s hard because it’s almost like, ‘Gosh, I have to get everything out right now,’” she continued. “But also, I need these men to really know who I am and understand why I am the way that I am.”
After raising her mom before, Clayton Echard’s season of The BachelorDuring one-on-one meetings Nate Mitchell And Erich SchwerDuring her chat with Gabby, Gabby talked about how therapy has helped. Jason AlabasterEpisode 008: Monday, August 1.
“My mom and I are estranged. She didn’t have the capacity to kind of, like, love me as a kid. And she was, like, really quick to take away love,” Gabby explained. “Like, ‘Oh, if you don’t do this and that, you’ll have to go live with your dad.’ And it’s like, I don’t ever want to lose my mom. That was so terrifying for me. And then when I left for college, she washed her hands of me and didn’t want anything to do with me.”
She continued: “But through a ton of therapy, I’ve kind of had to learn how — really how to allow people to love me because I never had an example of receiving it as a child. I think the hardest part is, like, I love her so much, but you can’t always — she just can’t be in my life. She just doesn’t have the tools to love me back.”
The BacheloretteABC Mondays at 8 PM. ET. Gabby and co-leads have more to say Rachel RecchiaYou can watch the video below.
