A single mom in the U.K. showed her son some “old school” parenting after learning that he had been sending vile messages to a girl at school.
Samm Jane, 32, was “fuming” after teachers called her to say that her 12-year-old boy had been sending cruel texts to a fellow student.
Samm asked Dave (name removed to protect identity) to unlock the phone and give it back to her when he got home from school. She scrolled until she got to his conversation with a girl, whom he called names like “fat,” “ugly,” “c**t,” “t**t,” and a “b***h.”
Dave also told her, “I never want to see your ugly face in school. Your ugly face and fat body offend me.”
When the poor girl responded with, “Stop being horrible to me,” he answered with voice notes and said, “Urgh, you’re disgusting.”
In a now-viral TikTok, Samm recalled she was “shaking with anger” after seeing her son’s offensive messages.
“I was like “What are you playing at?’” she said.
“She does my head in at school,” Dave replied, to which Samm said, “I don’t give a f**k.”
Samm told him, “She’s going to be looking in the mirror now and feeling so insecure.”
The single mom of five just couldn’t let it go. When she asked the school what the girl’s name was, they wouldn’t give it to her due to data protection rules. Samm did some digging and found out where she was living.
She then made Dave spend £10 ($12) out of the £100 ($123) he got for his birthday to buy flowers and chocolates for the girl.
Samm then marched the boy to the girl’s front door and asked him to apologize to the girl and her parents, who later praised the mother for being a “decent parent” and doing the right thing by saying sorry.
As punishment, Samm confiscated all of Dave’s electronic devices. Samm took his phone and offered his mother money to get it back.
On June 8, one day after receiving the alarming call from the school about Dave’s behavior, Samm shared her story on TikTok. This clip has been viewed over 1.1 million times on TikTok.
Dave turned 12 the next day, but it’s safe to say he didn’t have the most enjoyable birthday because of what he did.
Samm added that she made her son explain what he was saying sorry for after bringing him to the girl’s house. Turns out, the victim hadn’t even told her parents that she was being bullied.
“I’m not going to lie mate, if you were a grown-ass man and you said that to my daughter, I would have kicked your head in,” her dad told him.
Samm said she made it clear that her son would “never speak to a female like that again.” The girl’s mom texted her afterward to say they appreciated the gesture.
“I just want to thank you for being a decent parent. Not many would have had the guts to do what you’ve done today. She hadn’t even told me anything was going on, she just said they had fallen out. Thank you for her flowers and chocolates, I think she was a bit shocked when you came around,” the text read.
Samm taught Dave to respect women from the beginning, so this shock came as a surprise to her.
Samm has made sure Dave is aware of the impact hurtful words can have on people since his apology.
“I sat Dave down and explained how people kill themselves or self-harm because of what people say,” she said. “I’ve always told him about body positivity, about how women come in different shapes and sizes. That’s why I was so angry – why would he say all these things when I’ve told him to be respectful?”
Samm didn’t expect her video would gain such massive attention. She claimed that her phone buzzed non-stop with notifications for three days following the incident.
“I wanted to share it so other people could see it and think ‘I don’t want my boy to be like that,’” she said. “We’ve got to bring up the next generation. It’d be so much easier if parents taught their boys – and girls – to apologize and to make up.”
She believes that if her video is seen by a million people, then a million parents will also be able to make a difference.
Watch Samm’s viral TikTok in the video below.
@sammjane2 #raisingaboy #angrymum #respect ♬ original sound – Samm Jane
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