How Can You Battle Laziness In Your Teen Or Young Adult?

February 07, 2016Feb 07, 2016

Has your teenager during school breaks or your young adult after high school become a permanent fixture on your sofa? Are their hands most comfortable when wrapped around the controller of their Playstation? Is the most exercise they get a day involve walking to the kitchen and back for more snacks? Have they seemed to have lost their will to live in the real world?


Christian parental advice writers Gregory and Marina Slayton have dealt with questions about laziness in their Christian Post column and make these suggestions for battling it:

1. Communicate with your kids about their laziness, but not in anger. Otherwise, they will simply tune you out.
2. Be humble. Examine your own life to see if you've used electronics as their babysitters growing up.
3. Wean your kids off electronics or limit their usage. Heavy usage of electronics can reinforce a "me first," instant gratification mindset.
4. Don't automatically push your kids toward a traditional college. Find out what your child wants to do. Perhaps a vocational school or trade are the best path for them.
5. While they're still in school, help your child understand the importance of it. Let them learn how much you value education, and over time it will likely become more valuable to them.
6. Don't automatically give your kid free allowance. If they're younger, have them earn it through certain chores and good grades. If they're older, cutting off allowance will encourage them to find odd jobs.
7. "Be loving but tough…and start with prayer."
8. Deepen your relationship with your kid by being involved in their life, and you will find easier to connect with them and communicate to them that you have goals and standards in mind for their life. Make sure they know you're not simply content with them being a bump on a log.
9. If you have a weak relationship with your kid, realize that establishing a strong one takes time. Share activities with them, and they will more likely open up to you when you share your concerns about their lives. Also, try to find out what they think is holding them back. You may not be aware of major issues they're dealing with that are retarding their growth into mature adulthood.
10. Understand that while mothers have a bigger role in raising young children, the need for a father's involvement grows as the kid grows. Fathers need to make sure their kids know how much they love them.

Is there other advice you would add to this list?