The Love Life Advice Jase And Missy Are Giving Their Kids
What's one thing most parents dread doing? Giving their kids the "Birds and the Bees" talk. And both Jase and Missy didn't receive it from their parents in the way they thought was helpful.
"We didn't talk about [sex] at all in my family," Missy told ETonline. "I didn't figure out what to do physically until I was in high school. I just acted like I knew, because it was embarrassing that I didn't."
And as for Jase? "My dad, everybody knows he is one of the most blunt human beings on the planet. I came home one day from school and I asked my dad what STDs were, because I heard some chatter about it. [Phil] went on this graphic, I mean graphic, naming -- I'll leave that part out. Basically, he was saying 'Look, here's what you do. You leave everything you got in your pocket 'til you get married. Then you won't have to worry about it.' The funny part is, I was 8 years old."
"He put a little fear in me about that, and I think that was a good thing, but I wouldn't encourage to be that graphic when you're that young. But that's just my dad! He is very well-intentioned, but he says some things that that he probably shouldn't."
So that's why Missy and Jase want to do things differently with their kids. While they are so thankful they both waited until marriage, their wedding night wasn't exactly magical. "I felt like I was playing that game, you know, where if you hit something, it buzzes?" said Jase. In their new book 'Blessed, Blessed...Blessed,' Jase refers to that night as "an exploratory biological experiment."
Their method of teaching their kids? Encourage abstinence, but also be more open about the topic. "What we shared was beautiful, so we encourage that," Jase said. "I mean, look, we're not in their face about it, but they know how we feel about it. We have open conversations about that."
"I'm a one woman type of guy and I've always been," Jase continued. "I encourage my kids, I'm like, 'Look, when you date, don't waste your time. Look for somebody who you can spend the rest of your life with.' I think that advice has helped them out the most."
And as for Missy? "I love that Jase talks about the way he feels about me in front of the kids," she shared. "I want the boys to do that to their wives in front of their kids, and I want Mia to have that in her husband. Someone who really thinks that she's beautiful and tells her every day. And Jase does. He actually says I'm hot, even at this age."
It's so great to see public figures sharing such godly values! How do you feel? In this culture of "Anything goes," is it refreshing to you to see people uphold traditional values? What do you think is a good message to pass on to the next generation? Let us know! We love to hear from you!