After gaining national stardom in her mid-teens, the granddaughter of “Duck Dynasty” patriarch Phil Robertson has continued her young career as a well-known author and motivational speaker even after her family’s reality TV show signed off the air following an 11-season series. Now at 20, Sadie Robertson believes that despite her age, she has words of wisdom to share with teens and adults about living for Jesus Christ. And she’s revealing the very important lesson she learned from a relationship with her ex-boyfriend that she’s now saying was unhealthy to its core.
Last year, after two years of dating, Sadie broke things off with her football player boyfriend Blake Coward, according to The Christian Post.
"It's not how we would wish things would end but it's what happened and we feel like this is the best thing,” she said afterwards, according to Fox News.
But on Monday in her personal blog, “Live Original,” Sadie went into much greater depth about why things were wrong in her relationship with Coward. Passion, she said, is what ruined it. She thought passion was the essence of a strong relationship, but instead it was a lie that twisted her view of what a healthy relationship should look like.
“I began to believe that the essence of passion was emotion. Where you fight but make it through and kiss to forget. It was a love that was formed from the hard times,” she wrote. “We were so … ‘passionate’ — and to me, it seemed like that couldn’t possibly be a negative thing, because I heard the word passion at church all the time. That was a huge LIE and created so much confusion for me.”
She further explained, “I thought our connection was so deep because we created this false love for ourselves that said it was okay to constantly fight like cats and dogs, scream hateful words and cry till our eyes were swollen. All we’d have to do afterwards is share a kiss, make up and then boom — our relationship would be stronger than ever. That was wonderful and all...until the next throw down came which was inevitably not too far around the corner.”
Sadie explained where the twisted view came from, writing, “We would go through this unhealthy pattern of ‘I hate you, I love you. I hate that I love you.’ The world makes that seem like such a normal, attractive concept through movies and music, but let me tell you, it definitely is not. We figured out the hard way that all it leaves you with is a lot of hurt, loneliness and confusion.”
That sort of “passionate” dating only puts your relationship into “temporary survival mode,” Sadie learned, and “it create[d] a wedge between us and God.” Finally, she said, she and Coward broke it off when the Holy Spirit helped her realize that the love between her and Coward bore no resemblance to God’s love for her.
Do you agree with what she is saying? Recently, Sadie also revealed some of the shocking things she’s heard in her industry and how she dealt with them.